Educators sexualize children, they teach that abstinence is unrealistic because teenagers will have sex anyway and distribute condoms to K-12 students. The mainstream media, TV programs and movies indoctrinates that premarital sex is normal.
However The Holy Bible forbids fornication and teaches against adultery.
Some say it’s unfair to ask single Christians who haven’t been called to a life of celibacy to still refrain from sexual intimacy because both men and women need sex.
Even though the apostle Paul advised the church then and advises the Body of Christ now in 1 Corinthians 7:9 if “if they cannot contain, let them marry: for it is better to marry than to burn,” we human beings can do without sex. Quite naturally we all know that we need water, food, clothing and shelter, but we don’t need sex to physiologically survive.
We can certainly attest, for those of us who are single, that it would be nice to be in love, be married and be romantically, platonically, emotionally and sexually fulfilled.
We need to realize that God loves us. We need to know that Jesus Christ suffered, bled and died on the cross for us. We need an understanding of what it truly means to accept Jesus in our hearts. We need redemption and salvation. We need confession and forgiveness. We need repentance and reconciliation. We need justification and sanctification. We need transformation and glorification, or everlasting life.
We need the leading and guidance and power of the Holy Spirit in our lives to resist temptation and avoid sin. We need The Holy Bible to educate us, exhort us, enliven us and encourage us. We need the Word of God appropriated and applied in our lives. We need to know that God’s abounding love entails us to physically survive hereafter so we can spiritually live with God and His Saints and all the Hosts of Heaven thereafter. Jesus provided all we need, when He shed his precious blood on the cross so we can avoid eternal death and escape eternal damnation.
When our spiritual needs are met we have love and joy in Jesus. We have peace and freedom in Jesus. We can share all with others that Jesus is all they need. This is how we preach and teach and share about sexual purity in the midst of a society that professes, promotes and praises sexual promiscuity.
In my book Noah, Preparer of the Ark I fictitiously assert that Noah preached righteousness of celibacy to people who watched him build the ark. Here is an excerpt of what I wrote in Chapter 6: Noah Preacher of Righteousness,” under the “Righteous Attributes and Virtues” subhead:
“I [Noah] preached to them the righteousness of celibacy. I told them that sex is sacred. Sex is to be cherished. Sex is the most beautiful, the most profound, and the most intimate physical and emotional expression of love ever to be shared between man and woman. I said unmarried young people should not have sex until marriage. Sexual abstinence simplifies life. Sexual abstinent couples would have a more enjoyable sex life after they got married, for they would have no shame or regret from their pre-married life. Married young of age, middle-aged and of old age will discover that having sex throughout the entirety of their marriage is quite fulfilling. If a man loses his wife or if a wife loses her husband, they should refrain from having sex until if or after re-marriage.”
—END NOAH BOOK EXCERPT—
I also write that Noah fictitiously preached that sex is not about “me“ and “my needs” and “I” and what “I want.” That notion is rooted in selfishness, self-absorption, self-centeredness and self-gratification.
Sex in marriage is about holiness. Abstinence before marriage is about keeping our bodies clean as a temple. It’s about doing God’s will. And it’s about avoiding all that fornication causes —from unplanned pregnancies, abortion and emotional heartache to broken families, fatherless children, poverty, sexually transmitted infections, sexually transmitted diseases and oftentimes even premature death.
Sex without God, without love, without heartfelt tenderness and without genuine fondness and intimate affection is rooted in the flesh.
But sex in holy matrimony with God as the center of a couple’s life is holy and rooted in the spirit. Sex within a Godly marriage is an expression of love for your spouse and it’s about giving to your spouse. Sex within marriage is holy. Sex in holy matrimony is not only an expression of love for your spouse, but it’s also an act of worshipping Almighty God.
Speaking from a male perspective, we Christian men have ceded our role as men and leaders. Some have been neglectful, careless and undisciplined. Some of us have not trained boys to be men and have not taught girls to be ladies.
I will address the brothers: Manhood begins at boyhood. Boys must be taught that a true man exercises self-control and withholds himself until marriage. Yes, I’m talking about male virginity.
If the world can promulgate male promiscuity, we in the church must preach male celibacy, husband monogamy and fidelity.
The most ultimate test of Christian manhood is walking humbly with God, aligning his body with the Word of God, yielding to the power of the Holy Spirit, and redirecting his God-created passions for physical intimacy by him praising and worshipping the LORD his God.
That’s how he remains celibate until marriage and that’s how he remains joyful in his celibacy. That’s how he respects himself and that’s how he respects God’s precious daughters. That’s how he demonstrates his love for God, shows his appreciation for Jesus Christ shedding His blood on the cross, and shows love for his Intended whom he may meet soon or may not meet for years to come. That’s how he remains holy unto God and married to the LORD his God.
This is what needs to be taught and shown to boys and young men. This is what needs to be taught and shown to girls and young ladies. This is what apostles, prophets, evangelists, pastors and teachers must preach and teach and share in church.
It’s been a lifelong challenge, but I practice what I preach. I am a virgin, at more than 66 years old.
Let me state that many of us virgins or people who are celibate after divorce or death of a spouse are hesitant to discuss celibacy. Sex is a private subject anyway. We don’t want to come across that we’re better than anybody. We don’t want to be put on a pedestal. We don’t want to be viewed there’s something wrong with us. Virgins or celibates are just as passionate as anybody or everybody else.
Let me also state that if you have committed sexual sin, confess that sin, repent of that sin, leave that sin behind you and move on! There’s redemption and salvation in Jesus! There’s confession and forgiveness in Jesus! There’s repentance and reconciliation in Jesus! There’s justification and sanctification in Jesus! There’s transformation, purity and love in Jesus!
Let me close by stating if someone robbed you of your virginity because you’ve been victimized by a pedophile or rapist, we feel for you. We grieve for you. We weep with you. Please know there’s deliverance and healing in Jesus. There’s rehabilitation and restoration in Jesus! There’s peace and love in Jesus!